Since venturing online, I have become involved with many sub-cultures and varying groups amongst the virtual community, many of which have proven to be an enjoyable experience for me. Somewhere along the line however, my personality online was met with violent opposition.
My relationship which has been the pivotal target of attacks, has seen many of my friends disown me, my online character interrogated, as well as several individual conspiracies all formed under the scrutiny of the union between myself and my partner. I sometimes question what horrible injustice I have caused to these select individuals that somehow justifies these sorts of social abandonment.
My relationship is an area of my life that is totally off the menu for disrespect. If people are not accepting, if people find my relationship hard to adjust to, if people continue to accept me into a social circle and not my partner, then I have no energy or capacity to accommodate these types of corrosive personalities.
There are few people in this world that genuinely have the ability to cause distress in my life. I generally give people a few chances in the hopes that their underlying good intentions will surface. Having said this, there are those select few who, exit my life as quickly as they entered and this will only occur when something regarding my relationship, which has brought immense happiness to my life, is attacked.
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Friday, January 16, 2009
The Reign of Intimidation
Whether you have been threatened with extortion, blackmail, or have been promised danger or harm, we have all at sometime been held under the downward pressure of someone else's thumb.
When someone makes a statement such as "If you don't do this, then I will tell her what you did last weekend" history would have it that we should kneel helplessly at the foot of the hector and beg for his mercy. As you'll come to know in this blog, these people are using nothing more than sophisticated scare tactics that more commonly are found to be as ineffectual as their pathetic existence.
So what's in a threat? Well typically, someone who makes a threat is after something that he or she believes you owe them. It is important to both exploit precisely what this person wants from you and to also call upon the exact details of the 'threatened harm' that is pending should you choose not to surrender to this persons demands. Psychologically speaking, revenge is the lowest form of retaliation so, when you ask an intimidator the exact ramifications that are promised, typically there will be slight embarrassment attached when they attempt to explain them. Remember, they too know how low they have had to concede in order to gain a "one up" on you so make sure to draw as much attention to their "imminent destruction" as possible.
The next important factor to consider is this saying - "Most choose words that alarm, over actions that harm" meaning, should you receive a death threat in the mail, detailing in graphic how you will meet your maker, this typically regardless of it's horror factor, holds a relatively low threat of actual violence as a predictable outcome.
Finally if you fall victim to an extortionist, stand your ground and assert that the aggressor should indeed release the so-called "sensitive" information...Nine times out of ten these individuals do not follow through with their actions anyway. Remember, no one on this planet has the authorization to hold you under their jurisdiction, and if they are audacious enough to believe that they can, introduce their non-existing balls to your left foot. Booyah baby.
When someone makes a statement such as "If you don't do this, then I will tell her what you did last weekend" history would have it that we should kneel helplessly at the foot of the hector and beg for his mercy. As you'll come to know in this blog, these people are using nothing more than sophisticated scare tactics that more commonly are found to be as ineffectual as their pathetic existence.
So what's in a threat? Well typically, someone who makes a threat is after something that he or she believes you owe them. It is important to both exploit precisely what this person wants from you and to also call upon the exact details of the 'threatened harm' that is pending should you choose not to surrender to this persons demands. Psychologically speaking, revenge is the lowest form of retaliation so, when you ask an intimidator the exact ramifications that are promised, typically there will be slight embarrassment attached when they attempt to explain them. Remember, they too know how low they have had to concede in order to gain a "one up" on you so make sure to draw as much attention to their "imminent destruction" as possible.
The next important factor to consider is this saying - "Most choose words that alarm, over actions that harm" meaning, should you receive a death threat in the mail, detailing in graphic how you will meet your maker, this typically regardless of it's horror factor, holds a relatively low threat of actual violence as a predictable outcome.
Finally if you fall victim to an extortionist, stand your ground and assert that the aggressor should indeed release the so-called "sensitive" information...Nine times out of ten these individuals do not follow through with their actions anyway. Remember, no one on this planet has the authorization to hold you under their jurisdiction, and if they are audacious enough to believe that they can, introduce their non-existing balls to your left foot. Booyah baby.
Monday, January 12, 2009
The Frightening Reality of Obsessions Part II
We at some stage of our life, have all experienced periods of infatuation, moments of pure idolization towards another human... this however is entirely normal until that infatuation becomes heightened. In this event, slowly this persons obsession will manifest itself to a point of being totally consumed by another person to where finally, that individuals every thoughts and actions are entirely motivated by their object of interest.
You must understand that a stalker typically, will not react indecently until a denial of some form presents itself - usually a denial of their love being mutual. If a stalker cannot be recognized by you as a lover, they will be quite content to settle for being a friend, in the event you do not recognize them as being your friend, in some circumstances, they will be equally content settling as your enemy - therein the issue lies.
Many obsessed people after being denied access to another persons life, will force themselves in regardless of your wishes, typically in the form of fear. Whether you are daydreaming your day away with thoughts about someone you have taken a liking to, or in contrast you are spending your entire day feeling threatened, angered or scared of another person, either way you have managed to spend an entire day thinking about one person, hence they have found a route into your life and your thoughts - the very thing you tried to prevent.
So whether or not you are being stalked, if ever in the event you do deny someones access to your life either as a potential boyfriend or girlfriend, make sure that if that same person begins to utilize fear tactics as a means into your life and thoughts, do not respond, do not react, do not feel threatened because most of the time, stalkers are attention-seekers-gone-wrong and thus need to be treated accordingly. Ignore it.
Hate and fear alike consumes as much energy as love does, don't waste it on some deranged idiot.
You must understand that a stalker typically, will not react indecently until a denial of some form presents itself - usually a denial of their love being mutual. If a stalker cannot be recognized by you as a lover, they will be quite content to settle for being a friend, in the event you do not recognize them as being your friend, in some circumstances, they will be equally content settling as your enemy - therein the issue lies.
Many obsessed people after being denied access to another persons life, will force themselves in regardless of your wishes, typically in the form of fear. Whether you are daydreaming your day away with thoughts about someone you have taken a liking to, or in contrast you are spending your entire day feeling threatened, angered or scared of another person, either way you have managed to spend an entire day thinking about one person, hence they have found a route into your life and your thoughts - the very thing you tried to prevent.
So whether or not you are being stalked, if ever in the event you do deny someones access to your life either as a potential boyfriend or girlfriend, make sure that if that same person begins to utilize fear tactics as a means into your life and thoughts, do not respond, do not react, do not feel threatened because most of the time, stalkers are attention-seekers-gone-wrong and thus need to be treated accordingly. Ignore it.
Hate and fear alike consumes as much energy as love does, don't waste it on some deranged idiot.
Sunday, January 11, 2009
The Frightening Reality of Obsessions Part I
People will tell you that stalking is for the rich and famous. What they fail to tell you is that - this year alone, amongst us ordinary people, an excess of one million women and three hundred and seventy thousand men will fall victim to this crime of violation.
I have somehow managed on youtube to attract the unwanted and totally uncontrolled idolization of a person from the United States (their identity still unknown). Firstly, I will point out that people who are prone to developing delusional fixations with people they do not know, or in some cases 'hardly' know, do indeed need medical treatment and as my communication of this topic may seem mean spirited or abrupt in its delivery, this is not my intention.
I only have to name notable public/media figures such as Rebecca Schaeffer, John Lennon or any one of the presidents and you will well indeed know the very real danger that can evolve as a result of a personal misguided obsession.
As my house, mail, email, and other personal items are intercepted carefully by law agencies I have this to say to anyone who has a similar idea of approaching me or my personal life in any form -
I have never in my entire existence on the Internet given anyone my expressed permission to send me any item, or personally meet with me at my residence. Regardless of what relationship I have shared with anyone on the Internet, regardless of its intensity, duration or significance, I have never and will continue to never allow someone to do any of these things.
Do not allow yourself to be misguided by the idea that you are somehow exempt from this. Even under extreme circumstances, if you do in fact know my address or a previous address I can undeniably advise you that I have never given expressed permission for you to come even close to my home or to contact me in any way.
Finally, Under Queensland Law, which you will be tried under, should you choose to stalk me you will be charged under the Queensland Criminal Code act 1889 ~ Unlawful Stalking section 359B subsection C. For those of you who are unaware of what constitutes a criminal act of stalking I have included it below.
Unlawful Stalking is conduct that is intentionally directed at a person that consists of one or more acts of the following or SIMILAR type:
(i) following loitering near, watching or approaching a person
(ii) Contacting a person in any way including for example, by telephone, mail, fax, email or through the use of any technology
(iii) Loitering near, watching, approaching or entering a place where a person lives works or visits and more under the section.
In a final note. I am in a very happy and loving relationship with my partner -should you choose not to recognize this and continue to pursue a fantasy relationship with me, where the law ends to protect me - I will begin. Perceive that in any way you like.
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